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How To Use NLP To Understand and Influence Others

While neuro-linguistic programming can help you to change how you act within the world, much of it also involves learning how to understand others and the different ways that they view the world. People might believe that they have empathy but might not actually observe others very much. When you study NLP, you might find that you are much less observant about how others react to and see things as you learn about the practice. At Premier Life Coaching, we are able to help you to use NLP techniques to improve your understanding of others so that you might have more influence.

How interactions normally work

In many cases, when people interact with others, they tend to think ahead to how they might respond next, wonder how the other people think about them, and tune out occasionally while their thoughts turn to other things that they might have planned for later in the day. They may believe that they have a good rapport with others.

There is a difference between establishing a type of easy social rapport and being more observant of others. In situations that require careful observation, the ability to establish a deeper level of rapport is essential. One example that requires the ability to establish a deeper level of rapport might be a conflict or crisis situation that you need to defuse.

Cues that can help you to understand others

In neuro-linguistic programming, a large emphasis is placed on the close observation of others. In some cases, you might be encouraged to mirror the actions of others. NLP might observe more than simple movements of the eyes to observations of other cues, including facial expressions, vocal pitch, physical movements, and the words that are chosen.

When you learn about these cues and apply your knowledge to real-world situations, they can be very helpful in giving you a glimpse into deeper layers of reality. These surface cues allow you to enter into the world of someone else quickly so that you can see things the way in which they see them. This skill is invaluable and can be a key to success. It is an ability that can be used in a positive manner to help people around you effectively.

How to understand and use the cues that you observe

Neuro-linguistic programming allows you to go even further. It allows you to use the strategies of observation to understand someone else on multiple levels as well as to mirror some of these at the same time. Mirroring can help you to establish a deeper level of rapport. Skilled practitioners are able to use mirroring techniques that can help to build rapport without the other people noticing what they are doing.

In a practical sense, mirroring is meant to help to build rapport. When you are able to build rapport, you may then have a greater ability to influence the person with whom you are interacting. With NLP, you can learn techniques that you can use to match the state of another person before leading him or her into a different state. Mirroring, empathy, and rapport building can be used as starting points to lead into other techniques.

Improve your observational skills with NLP

The fact that NLP can help you to understand others better through observation does not mean that it is focused on manipulation. Instead, NLP allows you to learn how to influence others positively as a skill that you can use in your career and in other daily situations. It is common to think back to a particular situation and wish that you had said something that was more appropriate or had done something differently. It simply helps you to improve your observational skills so that you can interact with others in an empathic way.

Learn more with Premier NLP Life Coaching

At Premier Life Coaching, we are able to give you the tools that you need to improve your observational skills and your ability to build rapport with others. NLP might help you to gain more influence over others in a positive way, which may lead you to more success in your career and in your day-to-day life. To learn more, contact Premier Life Coaching by filling out our contact form online.

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